Tag: Healing
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The Truth About People Pleasing
People Pleasing is a behavior often learned in childhood as a self-preservation technique. It becomes a way of getting our needs met by receiving recognition or attention for being “the good girl or boy,” the “helpful one,” the “easy-going one,” the “kind and generous one,” the “selfless one,” the “thoughtful one,” the “high achiever,” the…
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Failure Is Not an Option
The other day, I was driving along the highway with my son on our way for a hike when a truck passed us by with the slogan, “Failure is not an option.” My first thought was, “How appropriate for a logistics company,” followed by, “that statement feels incomplete.” The way I interpreted it, it seemed…
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Breaking the Chains, Rewriting the Narrative
When we pin our happiness upon someone or something outside of us, that someone or something hijacks our opportunity to love ourselves fully and completely because we depend on someone else to do it for us rather than taking responsibility. Until they no longer “love us”, and then we find ourselves crying into a never-ending…
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The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have
What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you have high, unattainable expectations for what you can achieve? Do you criticize yourself for how you look, the choices you’ve made, or the goals you haven’t attained? Do you put yourself last? Do you ignore your own needs until you have a physical (illness),…
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What If In Order to Come Together, We First Have to Fall Apart?
Imagine at birth, you were given all of the pieces of a puzzle that you needed to become the best version of you. Imagine then throughout your life, that you learned to hide some of the pieces because you didn’t think they would help you fit in. Perhaps you took pieces from others that you believed would help…
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Are You the Good Girl or the Rebel?
If you had asked me several years ago if I identified more with the good girl or the rebel, I likely would have said the good girl, hands down (with a few exceptions). My need to “be the good girl” came from 1) a deep desire to avoid conflict at all costs (because it made…
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Are You Ready to Live the Life You Want?
Have you ever stopped in the middle of what you were doing, looked around and thought to yourself, “There has to got to be more to life than this!” If so, you’re not alone! We’ve all been there. We pick our heads up for a second and realize that we aren’t where we thought we…
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“Heaven Let Your Light Shine” Through
A well-used, worn piece of cracked pottery is still beautiful when the light is allowed to filter through its cracks and chips. Imagine an ancient water jug that has cracks and chips, where the paint has faded and the shine has worn away from over-use. When we look at it, we can appreciate how it…
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Unleash Your Power and Create Your Most Important Masterpiece: Your Life Story
Each and every single one of us is a powerful co-Creator. We were given this amazing gift of “free will” so that we could create a life we love. Are you ready to unleash your power and create your most IMPORTANT masterpiece – Your Life Story? How many of us are actually living a life…
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Are Your Scales Tipped to One Side?
Recovering from people pleasing does not mean you have to become selfish, greedy or uncaring. It is about having empathy and empowering others so they can step into their own power to “fix” themselves or their situation. It’s accepting help from others and realizing it’s not a imposition if someone else is offering support.…
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