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Are Fear and Guilt Holding you Back?
Is FEAR holding you back from asking for help? Support? Love? Or getting what you need? Fear of rejection? Fear of looking too needy? Fear of being vulnerable? Fear of looking like you don’t have your shit together?
Or is it GUILT? Guilt that you need help because others also need help? Guilt that you’re asking too much because you know others are also busy and don’t have enough time? Guilt that you are imposing and don’t feel like “your problems” are important? Guilt because you know you “can” do it all even though you’re struggling and accepting help feels “silly” or “less important than someone’s else’s time” ? Guilt because you should be able to “do it all yourself”?
Fear and guilt are what hold us back from receiving. Not valuing ourselves enough to know that we are absolutely 100% worthy of receiving and abundance of support, love and someone else’s time and good graces because we would 100% without a doubt do the same for them! We aren’t designed to be ultra-independent. We are designed to be INTER-dependent. You are worthy of receiving abundance because you are YOU!
People Pleasing is a behavior often learned in childhood as a self-preservation technique. It becomes a way of getting our needs met by receiving recognition or attention for being “the good girl or boy,” the “helpful one,” the “easy-going one,” the “kind and generous one,” the “selfless one,” the “thoughtful one,” the “high achiever,” the […]
The other day, I was driving along the highway with my son on our way for a hike when a truck passed us by with the slogan, “Failure is not an option.” My first thought was, “How appropriate for a logistics company,” followed by, “that statement feels incomplete.” The way I interpreted it, it seemed […]
When we pin our happiness upon someone or something outside of us, that someone or something hijacks our opportunity to love ourselves fully and completely because we depend on someone else to do it for us rather than taking responsibility. Until they no longer “love us”, and then we find ourselves crying into a never-ending glass of red wine or chocolate cake.
What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you have high, unattainable expectations for what you can achieve? Do you criticize yourself for how you look, the choices you’ve made, or the goals you haven’t attained? Do you put yourself last? Do you ignore your own needs until you have a physical (illness), […]
In biology, a cell can either be in growth or protection mode, never both at the same time. When a cell is in protection mode, it uses all of its energy to preserve its original state, to prevent it from evolving, growing or changing. Similarly, in life, you, too, can not grow and evolve and […]
Imagine at birth, you were given all of the pieces of a puzzle that you needed to become the best version of you. Imagine then throughout your life, that you learned to hide some of the pieces because you didn’t think they would help you fit in. Perhaps you took pieces from others that you believed would help […]
If you had asked me several years ago if I identified more with the good girl or the rebel, I likely would have said the good girl, hands down (with a few exceptions). My need to “be the good girl” came from 1) a deep desire to avoid conflict at all costs (because it made […]
Have you ever stopped in the middle of what you were doing, looked around and thought to yourself, “There has to got to be more to life than this!” If so, you’re not alone! We’ve all been there. We pick our heads up for a second and realize that we aren’t where we thought we […]
A well-used, worn piece of cracked pottery is still beautiful when the light is allowed to filter through its cracks and chips. Imagine an ancient water jug that has cracks and chips, where the paint has faded and the shine has worn away from over-use. When we look at it, we can appreciate how it […]